Wednesday, May 15, 2013

Healthy and Unhealthy Boundaries in Relationships – Some Examples

Are you able to establish healthy boundaries in relationships?  Here are some examples of healthy and unhealthy boundaries in relationships:


  • Feeling like your own person
  • Feeling responsible for your own happiness
  • Togetherness and separateness are balanced
  • Friendships exist outside of the relationship
  • Focuses on the best qualities of both people
  • Achieving intimacy without chemicals
  • Open, honest and assertive communication
  • Commitment to the partner
  • Respecting the differences in the partner
  • Accepting changes in the relationship
  • Asking honestly for what is wanted
  • Accepting endings


  • Feeling incomplete without your partner
  • Relying on your partner for your happiness
  • Too much or too little togetherness
  • Inability to establish and maintain friendships with others
  • Focuses on the worst qualities of the partners
  • Using alcohol/drugs to reduce inhibitions and achieve a false sense of intimacy
  • Game-playing, unwillingness to listen, manipulation
  • Jealousy, relationship addiction or lack of commitment
  • Blaming the partner for his or her own unique qualities
  • Feeling that the relationship should always be the same
  • Feeling unable to express what is wanted
  • Unable to let go

A most exciting way to live is in true connection with your partner, family, friends and business associates.

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